What's Dad Thinking?
Jeff Doff|8/21/2012 11:27:04 AM|0 comments
Hi – I’m Jeff. If you had told me five years ago that my life would become so centered around babies, I wouldn’t have believed it. Now, not only do I work at a cool baby company (Summer Infant) – but I am expecting kiddo #2 in four weeks (or less!).
I have an active, almost three-year old daughter, so I’ve spent a lot of time recently remembering how we prepared for D’s arrival to try and get ready for baby G. Right now, it’s all about “nesting.”
- - Wikipedia defines nesting as “commonly characterized by a strong urge to clean and organize one's home and is one reason why couples who are expecting a baby often reorganize, arrange, and clean the house and surroundings.”
- - Before baby D’s arrival, my wife and I each had our own approach to nesting. For my wife, it was about making sure the nursery was freshly painted and set up with crib, baby furniture, and a healthy supply of diapers. I’m glad she kept us moving on that front, as it made things much easier later on. For me, let’s just say that nesting looked a little different. I became intensely focused on cleaning out the basement. I knew we were going to have a lot more baby gear around, and I wanted to get rid of stuff that we didn’t need anymore. After several trips to Goodwill, I felt much better. Note to self for next time – asking a pregnant mom-to-be to urgently help sort through boxes in the basement is not the best idea!
- - This time around, my nesting is taking a different shape. I’ve heard that some men put a lot of time and focus into WORK before the new baby comes, and this has been true for me. There’s a desire to make sure that the job is solid as a source of support for the family. As a guy, bringing a new baby into the world feels like a huge and new responsibility. When I imagined having a family someday, I never pictured what it must have been like for my parents to feel responsible for me. It’s a big one. Besides work nesting, I have also tried to soak up some of my hobbies before the new baby comes. I know that it won’t be as easy to get out for a while.
I’d love to hear how you have approached nesting – have you taken on dramatic changes (like huge renovations, moving homes or switching jobs) or smaller bursts of nesting? Please post – it will be interesting and helpful for others to see. Thanks!